tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21266499.post9034538991561714186..comments2023-08-15T09:52:16.785-05:00Comments on RainesKitchen: through the wringer, againRaineShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11797874960136225669noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21266499.post-89284674207089733432007-09-07T11:36:00.000-05:002007-09-07T11:36:00.000-05:00Thanks, all. I feel *done* for now. I am decided a...Thanks, all. I feel *done* for now. I am decided about Thanksgiving -- I will host at my house, but my parents are not invited. As to Christmas, we will probably visit them on Christmas Eve as in years past, but will not include them in our Christmas Day plans. Other than that, I am not going to allow any unsupervised time with my son, until I see how stable they are, as I don't want him exposed to things he is too young for.RaineShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11797874960136225669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21266499.post-65660665617794204382007-09-06T20:35:00.000-05:002007-09-06T20:35:00.000-05:00You have demonstrated, time and again, with both f...You have demonstrated, time and again, with both family and friends your capacity for forgiveness. It is one of the things that makes you beloved of us all<BR/><BR/>On the other hand... <BR/><BR/>Playing the white-creamy-filling to two polarly divergent factions within your 'family' structure seems self destructive. <BR/><BR/>I wonder if there is a way for you to say, I love you both separately, but not together. I will deal with you as individuals but no longer as a couple. I will support each of your lives, separately, but will not enable your lives as a couple?<BR/><BR/>While it would be difficult to come right out and say, "Come on, already! Break the heck up!" I think that all five of you, and the spouses you brought into your parents relationship, would be happier if they would just deal. <BR/><BR/>What made your dad come back this time? Did his girlfriend wash her hands of him?<BR/><BR/>Why are people so cruel to each other? Why do people allow others to be cruel to them? (Yes, this is totally rhetorical.)<BR/><BR/>*HUGS*Kitten Herderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15723615036218488946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21266499.post-21830083243245478502007-09-06T18:27:00.000-05:002007-09-06T18:27:00.000-05:00Oh, holy crap! Not again!I think drinking with ho...Oh, holy crap! Not again!<BR/><BR/>I think drinking with holiday meals will be essential. <BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, I have no helpful thoughts at all. Slapping silly really does seem to be indicated ...elsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14907685306774506935noreply@blogger.com