Saturday, January 09, 2010

sometimes being the mom is hard

Sometimes, being the mom is hard. This is one of those times. I spent the morning at the vet, with our older cat Ami. About a month ago, her tail stopped functioning. At the time, the vet thought it was a tail pull. This morning, her back legs were all over the place, moving without control, unable to hold her up. It looks like whatever affected her tail has moved rapidly up her spine and is now affecting her legs. She is 11 years old. SO. We asked for a blood test, sort of like hail mary pass. Maybe it will turn up something unexpected and treatable, but it doesn't look good at this point.

Our son loves that cat. We got her when he was 4 years old, and he is now 15. She adores him as well. And this morning, he looked at me and said "well, she'll get better won't she?" and I had to say no, I didn't think so. I couldn't lie to him, and I couldn't build up his hopes. I feel terrible.

I feel bad for the cat, bad for the kid, and just sad in general. And I don't know if I did the right thing. Should I have just ducked the question and said we would have to wait and see? Should I have lied to make him feel better? I really don't know. I'm thinking that soon I will have to do something even harder, and put the cat to sleep. And somehow I will have to help our son say goodbye.


Kitten Herder said...

You did the right thing. He's old enough to handle the consequences. Telling him the truth and giving him time to get use to it is far better than dodging it and then having it come as a shock (or wondering if you lied to him).

I am so sorry to hear about Ami. She's a good cat. I hope some sort of miracle allows her to stay with you a while longer, in a mostly comfortable and contented existence for her.


changejunkie said...

Thanks. I'm not really good at comforting. I guess I hate situations where I can't really do anything to fix the problem.